Does anybody remembering getting their hair done on Saturday mornings? Sitting in between your mother’s legs while you squirm or cry because mommy is combing or brushing too hard. What about getting a perm/relaxer to make it bone straight? I certainly remember getting a perm every couple months as a young girl. I used to hate getting a relaxer because it always burned my scalp. I tried to sit as long as I could but I gave my mom a good 20 minutes before it was burning and I ran to the sink like my hair was on fire asking her to hurry up and rinse out the relaxer. Usually it looked real pretty but nobody could see the scalp burns that were underneath the prettiness.
Fast forward 15 years later and I no longer use perms. I often use protective styles such as ponytails, individual braids and twisties. When I don’t have these styles my mother often says “I wish you would get a perm” “I can’t wait till you get your hair done”. I often tell her “Nope, I’m not getting one or I just don’t respond’. I think it’s important for me to learn to appreciate my hair in its natural state. If I constantly use products to enhance my beauty, it will be difficult to accept me when beauty enhancements are not readily available.
I’m wondering does natural hair acceptance vary by coast? While living on the East Cost, I often wore my natural hair with no extensions. I would get compliments and people wouldn’t look twice. Living in Washington DC, lots of people from the African Diaspora are sporting locs and other natural hair styles. When traveling to Los Angeles (my home town), wearing the same style, I’m asked so when are you getting your hair done.”? Weaves are the thing here often costing several hundred for the hair and even more to install.
Several questions to ask about hair. Why straight hair is seen as better. Why do we feel the need to put on a straight wig/ weave for interviews? Why is my natural hair seen as my hair not being done?
Like Indie Arie says I am not my hair. One day a may decide to go bald, perm, color, lock, or cut it. My hair is a part of my physical characteristics but does not define who I am.