I have been a chubby bunny all my life except for the time, I made an entrance into the world as a premature baby. If you read about my travel adventures, you know that being plus-size is not the focal point of my blog. The weight around my midsection does not define who I am and honestly doesn’t affect the way I travel. I am comfortable in my skin, so you might as well take me as I am or keep it moving. I choose to embrace myself and live my life unapologetically. My motto: “I only have one life to live and I must live it well”.YOLO!
Fat Shaming and Internet Bullying
I went to Spain and posted a picture of me in a monokini aka one-piece bathing suit. I looked fabulous. My braids were cascading down my back, the bright yellow bathing suit fit perfectly and I was in a gorgeous pool in freaking Spain.
I know how cruel social media can be but I’m normally supported when I share travel photos. I shared the photo on social media and received lots of positive feedback including 21,000 likes in Girls Love Travel Facebook group along with thousands of affirmative comments. Although that sounds impressive, I was more excited about the comments from women saying that I inspired them to be comfortable within there own body.
About a week later I discovered that this same swimsuit picture had been floating around Facebook and had been used negatively. The caption stated, “You will cheer for a 300-pound woman in a two-piece bathing suit and not a skinny girl in the same swimsuit”
Several Problems with this statement:
- I am not 300 Pounds! I love when people become psychics and can assume how much I weigh based off of one image.
- Skinny girls in bathing suits are always shown love as evidenced by social media, tv, magazine, etc.
- I looked beautiful and I know it. Stop hating and congratulate.
- Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. If you compare you will always be unhappy with yourself. Remember, we are individuals and thus are on different journeys in our lives.
As women, let us learn to uplift each other. There is no reason that we should put each other down, based on our own insecurities. Deal with your self-esteem, go see a therapist if necessary. We are queens and there is more than one crown to go around. I promise we can all win.
Many people believe that because you are larger you don’t exercise. I love to do water aerobics and although the gym is not my favorite I do recognize the health benefits. I would love to try belly or pole dancing as a form of exercising in the future. Oh and of course I love food but that doesn’t mean I eat pizza, fries, and hamburgers every day. Contrary to what people may believe I love salads, fruits, and veggies.
I think many people assume that because you are a FAT that you must be unhealthy. You should never assume anything about anyone let alone there health. Unless you are a physician and have a client in your care, leave people alone. Believe it or not, slim people can be just as unhealthy but may not show because they carry less weight. The last time I checked sickness targets everyone despite the size, color, race, sexuality, and religion. As Fimba the soca singer says, “mind your funky business”.
Fat Friendly Places to Travel
I noticed that the following question is asked frequently “Do you know of any fat friendly places to visit”? I often wondered what that question meant? I don’t subscribe to fat-friendly because as a fat person, I am free to move both literally and figurately where I want to go.
For example, someone could say Thailand is not a fat friendly place because a lot of the Thai people are slim. While this is true doesn’t mean that I don’t belong in the country. I must admit I didn’t find my clothing size in the store but I had an outfit made by a seamstress.
I traveled to Phuket and met the Gypsy people. I was shocked to find that these residents who lived near the sea were chubby and considered to be the happiest people in Thailand. While I was shopping in the market an older woman stopped me and told me I was beautiful.
My encounters are an example of why you should refrain from asking about Fat Friendly places. You must experience everything for yourself and draw your own conclusions about a particular destination.
If I want to go to Greece, I will go! If I want to go to Thailand, I will go! If I want to go to Ghana, I will go. I don’t base my travel adventures on how other people may potentially treat me. Remember you can encounter mean people right in your home town. Never ask anyone where you can go, tell them where you are headed.
Confidence is Key
Many people say I wish I had your confidence. I didn’t always have this confidence, especially as a teenager. My peers were cruel and I was relentlessly teased in Jr. High school about my weight. In addition, I had stretch marks on my arm and always covered up. One day it was so hot, I had no choice but to remove my jacket. While shopping, I discovered that all the cute clothes were no shoulder, off the shoulder, and sleeveless. As long as I feel like it fits my body appropriately, I’m going to wear it. Including my two-piece bathing suit.
For those of you that are still struggling with confidence. I challenge you to do the following: Wake up, look in the mirror and repeat I AM BEAUTIFUL 3x. Reflect on both your physical and personality character traits. Also, seek counseling if you need additional help with your self-esteem. Self-love is important to having confidence. Body Positivity is key.
I AM BEAUTIFUL